There’s something fishy about office happy hour, and it’s not the lobster duo you just ordered at Applebees.
As culture emerges as one of the most discussed topics in business, it appears that every emerging startup plays competitive ping pong and has a 24 hour ice cream machine. The reality is that not every company culture resembles Fueled Collective’s and there’s no reason to feel left out if you don’t want to spend 24 hours with your startup family (you probably don’t want to spend 24 hours with your actual family.)
So if you aren’t feeling the startup love, here are 10 ways to make the most of your office relationships and emerge as a natural leader on your team.
1. Confidence is a lot less spoken, and much more demonstrated. Work towards mastery of your domain.
– Inspired by our conversation with Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic Author of Confidence: Overcoming Low Self Esteem, Insecurity, and Self Doubt
2. Your total thinking power isn’t just in your brain; the majority lies in your heart, belly, nervous system and your higher power. Leverage it.
– Inspired by our conversation with Mark Divine, Author of The Way of the SEAL: Think Like an Elite Warrior to Lead and Succeed
3. Contrary to conventional thought, the earlier you push someone into a particular endeavor, the more likely they’ll fail.
– Inspired by our conversation with David Epstein, Author of The Sports Gene: Inside the Science of Extraordinary Athletic Performance
4. To inspire an ownership mentality, try giving everyone a voice in your strategic planning process, and be transparent about your financial results.
5. Beware of the confidence myth. You don’t need it to succeed – It’s your actions that will boost your confidence.
– Inspired by our conversation with Dr. Sean Richardson, Performance psychologist
6. Anger is a human emotion, don’t be ashamed by it. Harness it intelligently by seeking win-win solutions.
7. Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting it to harm the other person; You’re better off learning to let go.
8. It’s the admired entrepreneur who anticipates the difficulties of building a business and incorporates overcoming them into their ultimate goal.
9. Before you make any important decision, first be clear of your long term purpose – Your “Gold Ring” dream.
10. Take off your game face – Confidence comes from expressing the truth.